Author Archive: Thomas Rich
Balancing Burden and Privilege
During 2023, I conducted several research studies that involved interviewing participants with serious medical conditions.
Research such as this isn’t easy. Participants can be depressed and distracted, and might be lonely and in pain. They tend to view these interviews, not unreasonably, as an opportunity to unburden themselves to a sympathetic stranger.
These conversations can be emotional and intense. I’ve had participants tell me things they have never said to anybody else. A day of this type of work is tiring, and a week is thoroughly exhausting – with the experience leaving you physically and mentally spent. In fact, if you don’t feel that way after several days of this, you’re probably doing it wrong.
At times like this, it’s easy to focus on the load you’re carrying – serving as an interlocutor between patient and client, as a source of insight to the client, and as a confessor and confidant to the patient. This is a hard set of roles to play, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.
However, it’s important to remember that conducting such research is a privilege. A privilege for clients to trust you with their research. A privilege that participants are willing to make themselves vulnerable to you.
The thing is, burden and privilege are two sides of the same coin – you can’t have one without the other. This principle applies to most aspects of our lives. Nursing a loved one through a period of infirmity is both a burden and a privilege. Every civil right enumerated in the Bill of Rights to the US Constitution carries a corresponding responsibility.
Just think about free speech – one of the fundamentals of a free society. You only need to spend a little time on social media to see what happens when this privilege is abused. Participating responsibly on social media platforms can feel onerous, but it’s part of the bargain.
Anytime you shoulder a burden, it means that somebody is trusting and depending upon you. In qualitative research – as in any consultative field – trust is essential to doing your job. If clients and participants don’t trust you, there isn’t much you can accomplish. So, the ability to earn trust is a key factor that separates experienced, professional practitioners from beginners and amateurs.
So, when facing a burdensome responsibility, ask yourself why you should feel fortunate – and find the privilege contained within.
Introduce Yourself with a Story.
There’s an adage that you never get a second chance to make a first impression. And there’s no better way to make that first impression than by introducing yourself with a story. Stories have many uses –as a qualitative researcher, I use them to build engagement and connection. When it comes to introducing yourself, stories are indispensable.
I once had a participant in a focus group of parents introduce herself by saying “my father says that, when I was a little girl, I was already a mother.” Talk about a first impression. In just 15 words she told us something that went to the core of how she saw herself.
Stories are how we talk about important things: the things we love and hate, our hopes and fears, things that are central to our self-image. So, when you introduce yourself with a story, you’re sharing something significant, creating a deeper connection than if you just provide facts. By sharing this information as a story, rather than in a more matter-of-fact way, you’re tapping into the strengths of stories:
They’re human. Telling stories may be the most human thing people do. And we’re the only animal that does this.
They’re engaging. Stories are more interesting and evocative than a recitation of information. It’s easy to arouse emotions in others with stories, and almost impossible without. There’s a reason so much of the entertainment we consume is built around stories.
They’re memorable. Because stories connect with people on an emotional level, they are more likely to recall what you’ve said.
They’re articulate. Stories can often say complicated things far more eloquently and efficiently than a more matter-of-fact description. If that mother described above hadn’t told that story, think of how much longer and less powerful her introduction would have been.
They create trust. When we share stories, they make us approachable, even vulnerable – important factors for engendering trust.
One great thing about introducing yourself with a story is that modeling this behavior encourages others to tell stories as well. There’s no better way to get to know somebody than by swapping stories.
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So, if you’re trying to make someone you’ve just met understand and remember what you’re about tell them a story.
This could be helpful in a job interview or when meeting a potential client. For instance, if you want to get across your ability to empathize with others, rather than saying “I’m the most empathetic person on the planet!” – introduce yourself with a story about a time you showed empathy.
When I want research participants to understand that I’m open to anything they might say, I’ll tell them they shouldn’t worry about hurting my feelings, and furthermore, I’m from New Jersey so they couldn’t hurt my feelings if they tried.
Introductory stories are great in healthcare settings – anything that can make a medical professional connect with you on a personal level will create a bond and improve your quality of care—don’t leave it to them to connect with you, create the connection yourself.
It’s important to remember that stories don’t need to be long. In fact, the shorter the better. I’m a great believer in the power of what I call ‘micro-stories’ which I define as having fewer than 50 words. Micro-stories generally include something personal – something about your past, your family, your faults, your anxieties and so forth. They don’t need to contain such traditional story elements as a hero, a villain, or a beginning/middle/end structure. Here are a few micro-stories I tell regularly:
My grandmother used to tell me that the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
My mother says I was the worst sleeper of any child she ever knew.
We have two kids who are grown and out of the house and more-or-less independent. Let’s just say that they’re as independent as we dare to hope.
I play the piano. I took it up again during the pandemic after having stopped for a number of years, so I guess you could call that a covid benefit.
I teach martial arts, and am the classic example of the saying that “those who can’t do, teach.”
We’re recording this focus group because I’m the world’s worst note-taker.
The holidays are almost upon us. With all the socializing that goes on this time of year, we’re all likely to be meeting new people. So, consider this an opportunity to try out some introductory stories. Then, having modeled that behavior, encourage others to do the same.
Moral Hazard – It’s Everywhere
Maybe We’re Not All Completely Greedy and Evil.
Recently, at a local coffee shop, my wife – who had been keeping count – told me that I‘d consumed six cups of coffee over two hours for one low price of $2.89. She observed that I would never have done that if the shop charged for refills. My inner economist called out: “moral hazard!”
You might not have heard of moral hazard, but it strongly influences our thinking. It’s the assumption that we act irresponsibly when there are no negative consequences – in other words, if we know somebody else will absorb the cost, we act recklessly, and even antisocially. It’s a pervasive mindset in our culture, and is at the heart of a lot of our disagreements.
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When elected officials demand that public assistance programs be time-limited and linked to work, a moral hazard mindset is probably driving that rhetoric. They are assuming that, without restrictions, participants in these programs will exploit them indefinitely.
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When parents or child-rearing experts espouse the necessity of setting ‘firm boundaries,’ or clear consequences for children, moral hazard thinking is probably lurking beneath the surface. The idea is that, without boundaries and consequences, kids will just take advantage of their parents.